Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Never Say Never

There are so many things I said I would NEVER do. There are so many things I said I would NEVER have. I am sure there were even more "nerve's" before I got married and had kids, but that seems like forever ago.

Shortly (5 days) after Matt and I got married he left for basic training. A few months into it he called with information about where his first duty station would be. I was thinking somewhere South, but was completely unprepared for the words that came out of his mouth. "I am going to be stationed in South Korea." My response was "I am NOT going to live in S. Korea. Matt's response to that, "well, that's good because it is an unaccompanied tour which means you can't go." A month after he let Korea, I was on a plane to Korea. Never say Never.

When Matt and I got married obviously one of the things we talked about repeatedly was the number of kids we wanted to have. I was good with two, one boy, one girl. After Emma came along I was excited that I had my one girl and one boy (I did still dream about my daughter in China). I remember seeing large families out and about and thinking why in the world would anyone want that many kids? How did they afford that many kids? There house must be huge with a family that size. Could they even afford to take their kids to Disney, because in my mind (at the time), every kid needed to go to Disney, they needed to wear name brand clothes, etc. Nope, not gonna have more than 2 kids.

When Emma was 2 I got pregnant with Gabe. Matt and I were really excited about adding ONE more to our family. We were certain that this was going to be it. We were done after this. Three was enough and probably more than we could really afford. We prayed for a healthy baby with 10 fingers and 10 toes, the sex didn't really matter since we already had one of each.

You all know the story from there. Mylee came home in May of 2008, Drew and Jaxon in May of 2010, and Keliah will hopefully join our family this coming fall. In three years we have gone from a family of 4, to a family of 7 (almost). Never say Never.


One of the other things I said I would NEVER do is drive a mini van, and there was absolutely NO WAY I was going to drive one of those big, humongous vans. We had an eight passenger conversion van when I was growing up and there was no way I was going to drive one of those things around. Nope, no gonna happen.

Last night we went from this...


to this...


It was definitely time. We knew it was coming and had been putting it off for some time, but now with Keliah only months from coming home, we needed to get a van that would fit all of us. So, we went from a mini van to this 12 passenger monstrosity. We have been looking for one in our price range for about 6 months, so when we learned about this one, we moved quickly because these vans are not easy to find (well, without paying $30,000). Once again, never say never.

The kids were so excited when they saw up pull in. We came home to get them and take them for ice cream because we knew they were going to want a ride. Drew came running out saying "whooohooo, yippeee, now we can all go to the lake." (We were driving two cars before) They have already staked out their seats. It is definitely going to take a bit of getting used to, but it is such a relief to finally have that decision making process over.

And as for the Never say Never, I would drive a bus if it meant that there would be no more children without homes, because NEVER is just a word, and families are forever.


Tina Michelle said...

I like the new ride. Yeah, never say never. I am sure every one learns that lesson in their life!

Chris said...

Love this!

We too have learned the lesson of 'never say never'!

I am with you, I would drive a bus as well.....


*Overflowing* said...

LAUGHING!!!! I have been resisting the big van...I love my seats 9...our new surprise baby girl will make 9 ;) BUT I have no place for the stuff that 7 children bring along...I find myself longing for a 12 passenger van...LOL!!!


Shonni said...

Love this post and I am so with you...bring on the BUS!!!

Tara said...

mandi, you are so cute! love this post and love you, girl!!! and miss you too.


living4him5 said...

I had to laugh because when we brought Madelyn home it was clear we needed a vehicle that was lower to the ground than our Tahoe and alas, I had to trade in my favorite vehicle EVER for a mini van!!!!! I would do it again in a heart beat for my baby girl!!

You will be grateful for the space I'm sure. :)

Angie said...

Beautiful picture of your family! I went through a "my" car (which is still in the garage) and now have a seven AND eight passenger van. Love it.

Aly said...

You go girl! :)
Great post! Thanks for sharing!
i love all my "nevers" they have all been changed to "evers" lol.
p.s. Adahlyn is missing her Drew... maybe we can get them on the phone soon?

Brendan and Melissa said...

Think of all the fabric that baby can haul! Looks like you'll be driving on our next big-city trip!

Love that family pic, by the way.

Renee said...

LOVE this!!! We are looking for a new 15 pass. as ours is wearing out and they are so hard to find! Must be cause they are so stylin's HA!

Yours *is* pretty :o)

Shonni said...

Hey, Mandi, I forgot my “p.s.”
you asked if we would need 8 slims for any of the girls clothes and I wanted to tell you Yes, that would be great.
Just email me if it still works for you and we can work out the details!

Jean said...

Love your new ride and love the family pic!! I am already wanting a 15 passenger van- haha- never thought I would ay that!! Never say never!!